Stop being your own worst critic by putting yourself down!
You are the only one that is in your way:
Put an end to this trend, step out of your comfort zone and go follow your dreams.
Do you know what self-sabotage is? Do you create your own problems in your life? Does it interfere with your short and long term goals? Everyone has experienced self-sabotage before but it’s how we work through it is what matters the most.
There are many behaviors and thoughts that lead to self-sabotage:
- Procrastination (JUST DO IT)
- Fear of Success (You think you can’t, so you block your success)
- Fear of Change (You are afraid of how it will change you)
- Quitting (Keep going even during the toughest times)
- Responsibility (YOU are responsible for ALL your actions)
- Money (Spend less than you earn)
- Eating Habits (Make healthy eating choices)
- Sleeping Habits (Figure out your sleeping balance and get enough sleep)
- Negativity (STOP thinking negative thoughts and saying, “I’ll never….”)
- Self-Injury (harming yourself by cutting or hitting)
- Self-Medication (Gambling, Drug & Alcohol Abuse)
- Unnecessary Activities (Spending hours on social media or watching Netflix)
- Unhealthy Relationships (Learn to cope and not let your feelings consume you)
- Time (your most valuable resource)
Self-sabotage is deciding you want something and then making sure that it doesn’t happen. Have you ever been so close to achieving your goal and then throw it all away at the last minute because of self-doubt and fear?
Why does this happen? Well, this is quite common and we are always hearing “That’s too hard”, “If you try you’ll fail anyway”, “You can’t do that”. There are many possible explanations but the solutions are similar.
Eliminate self-sabotage from your life using these tips from Rafeea Roche, Life Coach at The Supermama Life Academy:
- Observe yourself. Look back at the times you’ve sabotaged yourself or come up short. You probably try to justify the sabotaging behavior in your mind. But, ignore the reasons and just observe the behavior. What conclusion would a casual observer draw from your behavior?
Learn to notice the signs of self-sabotage. How and when do you do it? Be objective and recognize your patterns.
- Remember that success isn’t perfect. Sometimes we quit because things aren’t turning out the way we imagined. Setting more reasonable expectations can help ensure that you’re seeing things through to the end. Nothing in life is ever perfect.
- For instance, maybe you’re in a great relationship, but you imagined there wouldn’t be any disagreements. That isn’t a practical expectation. Another common issue: Making a lot of money is helpful, but it won’t solve all of your challenges.
- Consider other people in your life. Self-sabotaging behavior is selfish. You’re hurting yourself and others.
- Before you throw in the towel, consider how it will affect those around you. That might provide enough motivation to continue pressing forward.
- Be willing to be adventurous. Those who self-sabotage tend to stay in their own little worlds. Seeing a project through to completion means adjusting your outlook. Whether it’s a different job, a new relationship, or something else, your life will be changed to a certain degree. Be brave enough to take that adventure.
If you tend to start new projects, but then stop yourself before ever completing them, nothing will ever change and you’ve just wasted time.
- Start small. Give yourself the gift of having a few small successes. Then take the time to notice that these successes aren’t perfect, but they still made your life better.
- Enjoy the victory and imagine how great it would be to accomplish greater successes.
- Take some time before making major decisions. Before making a big decision, give yourself some time to think about it. Decisions can be impulsive. A few days can give you the perspective you require to make a wise decision.
Self-sabotage can be frustrating. In the moment, it might seem like you’re making a good choice, but eventually, the truth becomes more apparent. It’s easy to beat yourself up over your self-sabotaging behavior, but that can make it even harder for you to succeed the next time.
Be good to yourself and avoid “shooting yourself in the foot”